The Fear in My Subconscious
When I sat down to really consider the question I asked about in my title, “having fear in your subconscious”, I thought about the many times I have confronted my own fears. Mostly, the one fear that kept popping up in my head above all others was the fear of how much work I was going to have to put into my new role as an entrepreneur. Well, welcome to success!! Because that is what it takes—a great deal of planning, strategizing, and implementing—a set-up to maybe fail in a few categories and excel in others. The important factor to remember though is, that anything that fails is only a tool to be used in succeeding.
Investigating The Fear & How It Over-Takes Our Mind
But the highlight of my thoughts led me to investigate this theory of the subconscious and how it rules our minds and actions without us realizing it. It takes over our powerful creative self and prevents us from fully applying ourselves to succeed.
- According to research, most people prefer not trying to succeed rather than suffer through the pain of trying and failing. It seems like it would be better to at least try and see if you can succeed than not ever try at all. This is the power of the mindset. Of course, it does not feel good to fail, but if you keep your eye on the ball, your chances are greater in succeeding because you will work harder to get there.
Bailing Out When The Going Gets Rough
Looking back at my track record, I admit that the frequency of bailing out was present more times than I would like to disclose. Why?
Because I realized that:
- success doesn’t come fast (it could happen but usually this is not the norm)
- the effort and time I have to commit to is just too severe for me
I wanted success fast and easy and that concept of thinking is just not realistic. The destructive thought of “easy and fast success” actually led me down so many different roads of failure in my life, that I wasted precious time and money. Finally, I discovered through my mistakes that my subconscious fear was playing with my mind, rattling my goals, and interfering with my drive for achievement. What did I learn?
I learned that:
- There is almost nothing in this world that will come easy…there is always a catch and the catch is hard work.
- Anything worth the kind of effort and time needed for a successful venture, (losing weight, getting fit, starting a business, or searching for your dream job), will not come to you fast. It takes time to plan and give your best effort. The results will be surprising.
- Nothing will come knocking at your door either. You will have to go after it and find it yourself. This is where the planning and strategizing play their role. I spent more than 4 months planning and strategizing, marketing, and advertising to initiate my online coaching website (now my blog site). Before that time, I was still in school, so I made numerous notes and researched my field as often as I could in my spare time (about a year and a half before I graduated). And my business has taken a few turns since its initial debut. Hopefully, I will continue evolving as my business does while, making improvements for my clients in service and insights.
- So, because of my usual thought patterns of wanting success to come fast and easy (unrealistic thinking), I would usually give up my ideas. Even after I had put hours and hours of planning and tedious details into my venture, I would bail out. Apparently, the subconscious mind would always win. I would think that quitting is better than failing and suffering the blow to my ego. What I did not understand was that the blow to my ego was building against my self-esteem and self-worth, slowly damaging my confidence and ability to start again.
- Lastly, the only door to real success is planning. I knew that I needed to educate myself by returning back to school for my degree in psychology and sociology. With discipline and courage, I succeeded in receiving my Bachelor’s Degree and later began my new coaching business.
What Does It Really Take To Be Successful?
Here are my thoughts and view on the subject according to my personal experience:
1-Make a commitment to yourself
2-Write down what you really want and how you actually see yourself in a few years as a success
3-Make a visible and tangible plan on paper
4-Propose strategy, marketing and advertising…e.g., a.-what is your intent, b.-who is your target audience, and c.-how will you attract them to your business, etc.?
5-Discipline yourself…take up learning meditation and practice it consistently
6-When the going gets rough, do not listen to your inner voice (subconscious) that is negative and destructive to your plan and your dreams of success. Just pick up a book or your journal and read all the positive steps to improving and succeeding in moving forward with your plan.
7-Avoid distractions by creating your personal workspace, even if that means shutting yourself off from everyone including your family for a set time to only…Work
8-Last, do not be afraid or overwhelmed …let the fear propel you instead of letting it hold you back. When feeling overwhelmed, take baby steps (one thing at a time) as you peel away at the mountain of plans that await your creative skills and abilities.
Remember, in all the pull-backs of fear that may periodically appear in front of you, let your motto be: “Keep Moving Forward”! And I promise you, you will have success closer than you can imagine.
References
http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/what-you-have-fear-success.html
Chadwick, K. (2016). What to Do If You Have A Fear of Success.
